Devotional Necklaces (photos)

[Cross posted and backdated (slightly) from a sideblog. Originally posted on 16 Jan 2014 as considerations for a collar for Sigyn.]

Choice 1

From TheHealthyBead.

Cost: $25.00

Choice 2

From KendrasKMSJewelry.

Cost: $7.00

Choice 3


From DerAlbinoAffe.

Cost: $7.00

Bowl Holding Tips

[Cross posted and backdated from a sideblog. Originally posted on 27 Nov 2017 and tagged #community.]

A Bowling Tutorial





  1. Commit to a certain amount of time. Many people find that having a set goal beforehand gives a bigger sense of accomplishment and prevents guilt from pushing them to keep going past what they find meaningful. 10-15 minutes is probably a good benchmark to start with.

OMG, IT’S ACID! 😀 The bio/chem people are always so much fun.

May I throw in my three cents (with six years of weight training experience)? I’m not a doctor or a professional trainer.

  1. When you pick something up in front of you, you are engaging most of the flexors and adductors in your arms and shoulders. These include relatively strong muscles like your biceps brachii and trapezius, but also muscles like your sterno-mastoid and lateral deltoid which aren’t very strong unless you’ve been exercising them.
  2. To generalize, the higher you hold the bowl and  the further from your body, the more those “weaker” muscles will be engaged.
  3. If you rest the bowl on your lap or prop your elbows against your chest, you’ll be able to hold it a fairly long time. That’s a great place to hold it if you like to look into the bowl while contemplating or if having it close to you feels more intimate. 10-15 min is probably an okay start.
  4. If that’s too much or too little, adjust.
  5. I like to hold the bowl above eye level with my arms at nearly full extension. That’s just what feels “right” to me.
  6. And 15 min will murder you if you start there and don’t have a history of doing similar exercises.
  7. Starting at two minutes (or less) is very legit!

A few other general tips:

  1. A burning or slight shaking in your arms or shoulders is just lactic acid build up. It the pain is getting unbearable, don’t fidget. Just take deep, slow breaths and focus on relaxing your trapezius.
  2. A stabbing or spasming pain is a RED FLAG. Stop immediately.
  3. The first 2-3 min are the worst. The lactic acid builds rapidly and your body will try to convince you that you are horrible person for making it work. Don’t worry! Your brain will start to filter out the tension as “background noise”.

Reblogging here with comment to help anyone out who is thinking of trying this for the first time.

Don’t be ashamed or upset if you can’t do the 15 minutes the first time 🙂

Mod L

Head covering + Paganism

Source. ETA: In light of the Dec 2018 tumblr purge, I’m adding a transcript below the linked post in case the original gets deleted.


so in the last couple years ive seen a lot of pagans / witches participate in something called “covering” or “veiling” and it’s essentially a similar concept to wearing a hijab

and I’ve always wondered if this is acceptable or appropriative? i tend to be wary of it if only because of the danger and stigma muslim women who wear hijabs face daily


Veiling is a common practice in many cultures. I could see it being appropriative if they were referring to themselves as hijabi and wearing it just as a fashion statement, but my understanding is that many only cover during rituals, although it’s between the individual and their deities when and where they cover, if at all.


(Oh boy, my special interest arises once again. Long post with links coming.)

It IS acceptable by and large and not appropriative unless you are otherwise acting badly. Claiming to be doing it “more correctly” than the established traditions, performing hijab “tourism” that’s meant to “learn what they go through,” or taking a very specific style that’s not from your history (IE Gele or similar, which are very specifically African styles) would be the problem.

couple Muslim sources online and one Jewish one (Rivka Malka) I have on hand are all openly fine with non-Muslims doing so if that’s what feels good to them. To put it plainly, many of them feel that modesty does not belong to one culture and headcovering is an act of modesty. If you’re not Muslim, it’s not hijab because hijab is specifically their code of conduct. If you’re not Jewish, it’s not tznius because tznius is specifically their code of conduct – but it’s the same idea.

Headcovering pre-dates monotheism (even Jewish monotheism, because that didn’t actually occur until CE – Judaism existed, it was not monotheist them.) The main sources we have that confirm this are Roman.  It was, although I don’t have this source on me, a way for upperclass Roman woman to leave the house when such an act was seen as a threat to family honour and integrity.

Headcovering was also present in Norse culture at various times, including the period when Christianity wasn’t omnipresent in Europe. For the most part, as far as I’ve gleaned from doing extensive research on it, headcovering is simply practical. It’s protective from sun, sand, cold, and wet. It maintains your hair when such care was likely labour intensive. It’s a very easy way to distinguish between different people, genders, or social classes. Prostitutes in Rome were forbidden from wearing headscarves. Likely other cultures before Rome did it as well, but we have less certain sources on it. Egypt did wigs, we know, but not necessarily about scarves for daily wear.

It has likely existed for most of human history since we started wearing more elaborate clothing, and quite frankly there’s only so many ways to attach a strip of cloth to your head.

Most pagans I’ve seen talking about headcovering are either doing it as a devotional act, as a way to keep their hair or head covered to conserve power or block outside energy, or simply as a means of privacy for personal or marital reasons. For myself, at this point, headcovering is secular and always has been – it’s privacy, care for my hair, weight/pressure for anxiety. There’s as many reasons to cover as there are ways to cover.

A lot of people have internalized the idea that “only Islam covers” which is I’d say an aspect of orientalism and islamophobia. At the turn of the 20th century, most of Christian Europe was still covering too. Only after the Iranian Revolution did headscarves seem to unilaterally signify Islam, and it’s unfair and othering to persist in that, in my opinion. (”A Quiet Revolution” by Leila Ahmed discusses some of this.)

If someone wants to cover, I’d highly suggest they do this kind of research to determine what your own opinion is. You can obviously tell what mine was, and I developed it after being challenged on the point. I love covering. It’s just part of my life now, but I remain aware that challenges about appropriation are to be expected.

If you’re wearing a scarf that can be mistaken for hijab, you really might want to also be able to answer questions about Islam. (I’ve gotten into a 40 minute debate about the Qur’an being “awful to women” because of this.) I consider that to be the debt you pay for bringing covering out of being “only Islam.” You owe ALL people who cover that respect, or frankly you shouldn’t be wearing it.

Obviously if you have any other questions, feel free to ask.

Head covering + Norse

Source. ETA: In light of the Dec 2018 tumblr purge, I’m adding a transcript in case the original post is deleted.

Anonymous asked:

Can a Norse Pagan veil? If yes, how? I really LOVE the concept, but I’m not sure if I could or if it would be appropriate, since it seems like a Hellenic devotional practice. Thank you :).
heathenroundtable answered:

Veiling or covering one’s head or hair does seem to be more widespread among the Hellenics, yes – but as far as I’m aware it’s a practice that crosses cultures and religions. It’s common among many religions to cover one’s head as a sign of respect during worship, or for devotees to veil on a regular basis. We see this in Hellenic polytheism, in Islam, in Christianity, in Judaism, and those are just the ones off the top of my head. It is a practice that crosses cultures and religions, so there’s nothing to stop you adopting it as part of your spirituality.

I know that there are Norse pagans/polytheists/heathens who veil on a regular basis, for instance I believe lokisbruid is one. I myself sometimes cover my head with a scarf when it seems appropriate to me. I particularly do this during rituals that involve my Ancestors, the dead, or death in some way – these can be very solemn and serious experiences and I wear a black scarf as a show of respect. Sometimes in rituals that are intense and serious I will cover my head in the presence of the Gods, again it’s a respect thing. This also helps put myself in the ritual and spiritual headspace, it’s another marker that this is something out of the ordinary and immersing myself in the experience.

I’ve no experience with veiling on a regular basis or outside a ritual or devotional context though. But I would say that if it’s something that appeals to you, try it out. Experiment.

We seem often in the polytheist community to worry a lot about “doing it wrong”. On the one hand that’s good, because it reflects a level of concern and care about doing things right, about understanding cultural and historical contexts, about wanting to avoid appropriation, about respecting our Gods and spirits and so forth as individuals and not just vending machines to do our bidding … and yet. Sometimes I think that attitude can go too far – into being afraid to try out new things and see if they work, to follow our hearts and be idiosyncratic, to being wedded to external validation.

Ultimately your practice is yours alone. If it works for you and your Gods [or other entities], then it works. Don’t be afraid to experiment. Taking the plunge and doing it is the only way you’ll work out if it is right for you.

Good luck & I hope this helps 🙂

ETA: answered by mod grimnirs-child, I actually answered this entirely without noticing it was sent to the HRT and not my blog. whoops.


FYI, since I didn’t see this till now: I veil for specific ritual things like seidhr, cleansing rituals, not all the time. That said, if I feel like I’m having a day where I need to cover, I do that too, it’s just not a geas.

I have never worn any covering styles that are specific to Islam either; I don’t feel like i know enough about the tradition to do it in a respectful manner.


I veil a lot, because my hair was damaged and thinning, though there’s some regrowth.  I veil during seidh stuff. I’d be interested in getting a Dublin hood for festivals and rites, also.  See below for some options for Viking style headcoverings and hairstyles:


The shrine for m’Lady, Sigyn, has been simplified since it was last pictured here.

A wooden bowl (different from last time) with braided yarn that used to represent water and air in an old elemental shrine. The glass with lady bugs and hearts, which holds a small heart. A notecard with one of the first prayers I used from “Staying Power” (I believe). The leaf is indeed heart shaped.


The topic of godspousery can be controversial. You go through a ritual marriage ceremony and interact with that Deity as a Husband / Wife / Spouse, basically. Within the Heathen (or related) communities, I think someone once said that wives of Odin were the first to speak about this, but most people think of wives of Loki. I don’t know if there was a real boost in relation to the DC movie, but it became a bit of a trend to mock presumably teenage girls for being new spouses of His.

I know I’ve seen other examples cross my dash / reader (Hellenic and Kemetic deities), but I’m not as involved in those communities. Some people don’t want to deal with the backlash and don’t talk about this, and some people want to provide resources and wind up talking about this more. I haven’t really delved into the specific communities for human spouses because I didn’t want to have to unlearn the comparisons and what others were being asked to do.

I’ve gotten hints that I should keep godspousery in mind over the past few years, and I’ve been allowed to refer to m’Lady as my Wife-to-be in some places. Recently, I don’t think that label fits us anymore. Yes, I love m’Lady, and I strive for being Her Home, and as far as I can tell, She does love and care for me. I don’t think this is limited to being a godspouse, though, and I don’t think that we need the extra ritual and Oathing that a marriage ritual would entail.

In terms of describing what we are, I’d say that what I’ve mostly used – Beloved – still stands. To me, this doesn’t carry any associations of marriage yet still conveys that this is someone I love. I haven’t really had to refer to myself in this aspect, but I guess ‘loved one’ could work. I have nothing against godspouses or spiritspouses, but I just don’t think we’re actually in line with those relationship models.

Slave v Servant

When I first started writing pieces (before #sccwriting), I was relatively fresh off reading material from other people who definitely claim the godslave label. I’ve bounced around along the path of trying to live the goal of following m’Lady since then, and it was only recently that I was asked to return to this matter. The rest of this is based on my impressions, and I am definitely not trying to be an authoritative voice on this. YMMV, you do you, etc.

There’s a mix of preferred titles, connotation / baggage, and the extent of control that a sub hands over to their Dominant when I try to mentally separate a godslave from a servant. I think of a servant as being work oriented, and they may not hand over control of an area that isn’t related to the work. The Dominant could still be an Owner, but I’m more likely to think of Boss. When it comes to godslavery, I definitely think of the Dominant as the Owner, and I associate handing over the most amount of control with this dynamic. Realistically, you can’t reach 100%, but I don’t think anyone’s talked of an area that always stayed off limits.

When we were first starting along this path, m’Lady stressed handing over control and that She owned me. There wasn’t really work per se, or an assignment, so I didn’t think that serving quite described us. However, there’s connotation wrapped in these labels that I think nudged me away from using “godslave” a lot in the beginning. There is consensual sexual slavery, but I’m honestly not sure that that’s the first association that people have with slavery because of the very non-consensual kidnapping and human and/or sex trafficking that happens. I’m aware that the people writing about godslavery initially were talking about situations in which they didn’t really have a lot of say in declining this dynamic (tied into the death / rebirth process of being a spirit-worker in their paths), but I’ve been under the impression that this isn’t the norm.

When I think of a servant, I can see someone having more say in becoming one. I have a feeling this may not be true all of the time historically, but there’s only so much history that I – someone who isn’t a history buff – can bring into the effort of defining words that seem rather recent in getting a name. I think of butlers, ladies in waiting, and people who are almost like live-in assistants in working with someone else towards a goal. I think there was a stress on Ownership and handing over control in the beginning because it was new more so than that being a focal point in our relationship.

m’Lady still owns me, but it’s not as prominent. The title Owner is in storage more so than having been discarded, if that makes sense? It seems like godslavery is a lifetime commitment, but I think being a servant can also entail that commitment. Granted, the first example I can think of entails a fictional medieval setting, but I don’t want to feel like I have to use the godslave label in order to convey this sense of longevity. I know this probably looks like drawing very particular lines in the sand when some people view these terms as overlapping and sometimes being synonymous; I’ve been trying to see if I can figure out why I’ve been drawn more to the servant label than godslave.

A half chapter

I made it through my last week of Finals in the last week of April (it seems like we graduated really early this year compared to other years (and schools)). I knocked out a 10 page paper for Theatre History: The Real and The Absurd [due Thurs], and I survived that 12 page paper for Art & Morality [due Sat 11:59 pm after moving out of the dorm].

I interviewed for a position with the Tantrum Theater, which is starting off for its first year as a collaboration between OU and the Abbey Theater in Dublin. I was offered a contract and accepted, and then I – and other Seniors – found out that it’s technically a summer class (Off Campus Practicum), so we have to delay graduation in order to still be full time students.

This means that I walked but technically am considered a Super-Senior because my graduation paperwork hasn’t gone through and everything. Yeah, that weekend starting May off was – fun. Walk Sat AM, move out of dorm by 6 pm, finish and turn in paper online by 11:59 pm, do laundry, get anything I wouldn’t want for Tantrum out of the car, repack some boxes, and move into (the first of several) Tantrum housing on Sunday.

Like, I finished a chapter of my life, but I actually haven’t. So many friends are returning in the fall – at the very least for their Senior year – and some actually need the class credit that this will provide, and I feel like I’ve almost been pushed out the door but the door actually shut on me. I’m here to help this get started, get to help on some of the improvements for next year in the Shop, and so many of us keep forgetting that I’m not coming back.

I’ve been so busy trying to do all of the class shit for the semester that it hasn’t really processed that I’m leaving. I finished two BFAs in four years, and now it’s time to get non-academic experience. I wasn’t prepared for all these conflicting feelings, I guess. Accomplishment – it’s been a while since someone has completed these two BFAs within four years. Not feeling prepared. Fear of failure, of leaving and fucking everything up.

A restlessness that I usually associate with summers because I don’t have academics consuming everything. An antsy feeling that my brainweasels aren’t going to play nice as the last of this medication works it way out of my system, and a vague sense of concern about handling these brainweasels in the future (I think they evolved away from being just seasonal depression to being something that includes that and ____???).

I wasn’t expecting to feel this lonely. The crew is composed of four people (including me) who have all spent at least the last year working together, and damn, have there already been bonding moments. But I can already tell that something’s not quite right; I feel less than – less knowledgeable, less prepared, less worthy of being here.

A part of me can parrot back the whole “I don’t have to apologize for existing, I’m not a burden” spiel, but I don’t know to what extent I believe this. I feel like I can’t quite trust what my brain is telling me because I could just want some alone time, but I could also be starting off the whole self-isolating thing, but I could also be making shit up for attention.

There’s still been a fair bit of Burning™ as well, and I’ve kind of had that “young kid being talked over by adults who are making all the decisions” sensation. I can understand that there’s a lot that goes into Leaving, and People don’t seem to Leave quickly, but it kinda feels like that two ships passing in the wind saying.

Responding positivedoodle from m’Lady:


And another from Sleipnir:


Sigyn + Family Shrine


An updated version of the shrine for Sigyn, Loki, Vali, and Narvi last featured here.

A tall, thin glass with hearts and ladybugs on it for Sigyn (top left). A margarita glass filled with cinnamon candies for Loki (top right). A seashell for Narvi (bottom left). A sand art dinosaur for Vali (bottom right). A wooden bowl for Sigyn (center) in front of an index card with a prayer and heart shaped leaf on it.